Dear members of the Greg’s family,
Heartfelt thanks to all in the community who have made my arrival to St Greg’s so welcoming and warm. It has been a joy to meet many new families and students and to reconnect with many families I had contact with previously. I have enjoyed also catching up with staff, both those I didn’t know and those I have history with. It is with a sense of gratitude and great excitement that I look to work with you and your children to make this vibrant catholic, Marist community the best it can be for everyone.
Feast of the Assumption
On Monday, the Church celebrated the Feast of the Assumption. This is an important feast day for us as a Marist community as we celebrate Mary wholly going to Heaven. Below is an extract from an article written by a Jesuit priest based in Melbourne, Fr Andrew Hamilton SJ, and his explanation of the importance of this feast day.
The Catholic belief that Mary was taken into heaven has a long history. Though not mentioned in the Scriptures it appears in other early Christian writings. It became widespread in the fifth century when a fierce debate about how to account for Christ’s divinity and humanity arose. The description of Mary as the mother of God affirmed both his divinity and the earthy reality of his human life. It also deepened devotion to Mary as mother, as one who was without sin, as someone to whom we could pray, and as example of the Christian life.
In this world belief that Mary was taken into heaven, either before or after her death, was natural. Like Son, like mother. In the Western Church Mary was believed to have been taken to heaven before her death. In the Eastern Church she was believed to have died and then to have been taken to heaven. The belief was expressed in devotions, in liturgical celebration, in art and in theological exploration. It was part of Catholic life.
Although Mary was often represented in popular art as unshakeable in her faith and as totally self-possessed, as a model of conduct and self-control, and so a reliable companion in prayer, she could also be prayed to as a sister who shared our hardships. In the austere masculinity of church ministry, too, Mary represented the ideal woman and mother.
The feast of the Assumption is for all Catholics. Its meaning has been caught in a later feast instituted by Pope Francis for a more inclusive Church, Mary Mother of the Church. It focuses on Mary’s links to us as well as to God, and points to the links that unite all Christians and all Churches. The Feast of the Assumption enlivens our hope that we shall be with Christ as Mary now is. It promises that after the struggles and losses of this life that we shall find happiness and companionship with God.
Image: Guido Reni, The Assumption of Virgin Mary (1638-9), Alte Pinakothek, Munich (Germany). Wiki Commons images
Senior School Academic Award Assembly
It was wonderful to see so many students recognised for their efforts in Semester 1, 2022. Many thanks to Mr Bombardiere and Mrs Johnstone for their coordination of the assembly and all staff who worked behind the scenes to make it possible. It is an important keepsake for families and a copy of the assembly can be found below:
Year 7-11 Semester 1 Awards Assembly 12th August 2022 - YouTube
Year 12 Retreat
I had the privilege of attending the Year 12 Retreat on Tuesday and Thursday evenings for Mass and dinner. What a great opportunity for our young men to reflect on their schooling and to ‘take stock’ of where they are. To have the retreats at the spiritual home of the Marists in Australia, The Hermitage in Mittagong, is a great bonus. I left both retreats with a real sense of optimism and gratitude. Optimism as we have a wonderful group of young men about to contribute positively to society in a few short months and gratitude that we have staff willing to give up their precious family time to give the young men this life-changing experience.
Parent Article
Please find below eleven great suggestions that parents can work with the College to support our most precious gifts. I urge you to read and print off a copy for your future reference.
11 ways parents can support our efforts to boost students' mental health;
- Foster self-acceptance. Parents may provide a powerful impetus in promoting self-acceptance and high self-esteem by encouraging young people to pursue interests and skills while also stressing the value of setting realistic objectives and developing efficient methods to achieve them. Parents can facilitate a positive self-image that will help young navigate challenges more effectively.
- Discuss difficult emotions. Understand social norms and provide them with the skills necessary to tackle difficult emotions when they surface. Talk to your child about their feelings and encourage them to express them in healthy ways, such as through art, music, or writing. Look for ways to check in with your teen. When they open up to you, you can respond with “I understand”, “it sounds like a difficult situation”, or “that makes sense”. Remind them that you are there for them, no matter what, and that you want to hear how they are feeling and what they are thinking. Being aware and taking notice of the little things teaches us to be conscious of our mental and emotional states. Talking about what we are grateful for is also known to promote positive wellbeing. As parents, we can share what we are grateful for.
- Build Relationships. Research shows that healthy family relationships can reduce the chances of a teenager experiencing mental health issues. Making time for the important people in our lives and having positive relationships with friends, family, peers, and staff is essential for mental wellbeing. Encourage your child to make new friendships and maintain an active connection with their friends. This connection helps them develop a sense of belonging. Help them foster meaningful relationships with others by encouraging them to be active members of the school community, a sports team, volunteer, or just by making time for family. Understanding how to resolve conflict in relationships is also crucial.
- Promote healthy coping skills to deal with stress and anxiety. If your teen feels frustrated, work with them to brainstorm solutions to problems. Ask your child how they will resolve conflict for themselves. They also need to understand everyone gets stressed at times, and some stress is good stress and helps us to perform at our optimum. Talking about the worst-case scenario can also help put things in perspective.
- Ensure sufficient good quality sleep. Sleep is essential for positive mental health. The most significant influence on good quality sleep is mobile phones and social media, which may ‘ping’ all night long. When teenagers become stressed or down, they may also sleep more, turning their sleep patterns upside down. They might sleep all day and be awake all night. Getting young people to readjust to a circadian sleep pattern will significantly improve their mental wellbeing. Quality sleep is so important for so many aspects of life. Family expectations of no technology in bedrooms is one way parents can ensure their child gets sufficient, quality sleep. This is critical to good learning, good decisions and positive wellbeing.
- Limit screen time. Interacting virtually through texting, social networking, or gaming sites is the new norm. Add to this online bullying, increased exposure to violence and inappropriate body images; it is not difficult to understand why today’s kids struggle to establish and maintain good mental health. Excessive screen time leads to inactivity, wasted time causing stress with school assessments, lack of time building face-to-face relationships and most importantly, lack of sleep. This is one of the biggest challenges for parents but can have the biggest impact on mental health.
- Avoid power struggles. With the world feeling unpredictable, and right now, teens might be struggling to be in control. As difficult as it can be in the moment, empathise with their desire to assert control rather than attempting to overpower their opinions. Never discuss an issue while you are angry. Walk away, take a breath; you can talk with your teen about it later, and you will have a much more productive conversation when you are both calm. This shows your teenager how you manage your emotions.
- Encouraging them to be active. Whether through sport, dance or any other physical activity. Co-curricular activities at school and beyond provide many opportunities and have been linked to a decreased risk of mental illness. Encouraging your child to get involved in activities they are passionate about can help them feel more connected to their school and peer group and enable them to develop confidence and feel valued for their abilities. The outdoors is a great place for promoting wellbeing.
- Volunteer together. It is gratifying when we give our time and energy to help someone else. It provides us with a sense of meaning and purpose. Volunteering or giving time to a cause your child feels strongly about and showing kindness will help your child understand empathy. Helping them find ways to contribute to their community will ensure they feel valued and can help build stronger relationships with parents.
- Modelling positive mental health. Parents can support the school’s efforts by modelling healthy habits for their children. Parents should take care of their own mental health, practice stress management, and make time for leisure activities. By modelling these behaviours, parents can show their children that taking care of their mental health is important and that while we may have stressful days, we can work through them.
- Work in partnership. Work with the school and other professionals to support your child’s mental health. The most important thing parents can do is be aware of the signs and symptoms of mental illness. Mental illness can manifest in many ways, so it is important to be vigilant for changes in your child’s behaviour. If you are concerned about your child, talk to your child’s teacher/year leader or a College Psychologist. Seek professional help if you are worried about your child.
While some of these suggestions are challenging to implement, it is far more challenging to resolve complex mental health issues once they arise. Prevention is a far better option. A child’s good mental health is a very elusive concept because kids are constantly changing, growing and developing, so we need to be flexible depending on a child’s needs.
Let’s partner together, parents and educators, to ensure our children have the knowledge and skills to manage their wellbeing, tackle challenges and thrive in school and life.
By working together, we can help your child thrive.
May St Marcellin, St Gregory and Mary our Good Mother continue to watch over our community.